Written by a Dating Coach, Teddy Shabba
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When a man and a woman are casually dating, in general it's because both parties have agreed that they are not looking for anything serious at that time. So both agree to throw the conventional rules of dating out the window and enjoy the sexual freedom and joys that come with casual dating.
However, what inevitably happens is one person (mainly women) begins to develop emotional feelings for the other and the relationship seems to be forced into the crossroads of a real relationship or ending.
Even though there are no guaranteed methods to keep a casual relationship casual forever there are certain Rules that you can follow which will ensure that you maximize the mileage of any casual relationship you find yourself in.
Rule #1: Keep Phone Calls Less Than 5 Minutes Each
All you should be using the phone for is to set up a date or to tell her you are on your way. Telling her about your day and vice versa is something that you do in a relationship and the more you do it the more she has a chance to think about what being in a relationship with you is like. In fact I highly recommend only texting her which achieves the desired results even better than the 5 minute rule.
Rule #2: See Her Only Once or Twice a Week
At most you should only see her 3 times every two weeks with at most two times in any given week. Once you hit that 3rd date of the week you are roaming around in Relationship territory. At its best you go over to her house once a week watch a movie or some other form of relaxation followed by some more grown up activities.
Rule #3: No Flowers or Gifts
All women appreciate getting flowers and gifts, yet the minute that you give them to her is the first minute in which she will begin to think of you in a more Relationship way.
Rule #4: Don't Meet Her Family or Have Her Meet Yours
Do you really want her trying to explain to her mom who you are and the type of relationship that you have, furthermore parents aren't any fun or relaxing so what is the benefit in it for you?
Exactly! All you are going to achieve by meeting the parents is prove what a great catch you will be for there daughter and again be in that relationship territory.
Rule #5: Don't Treat Her Like a Booty Call
All this really means is don't call her drunk after the bars close every week. She obviously wants a little more than what a booty call offers or you have been giving her more than that. If done more than once you risk her beginning to think 1 of 2 things.
1. You like her a lot and want to see her exclusively
2. You are a real loser who can't even get laid at a bar
Now remember that these rules are for when you are casually dating someone who you are having lots of fun with, enjoy her company, but don't want to make her your wife or main squeeze. If she is simply a woman you are practicing on or wouldn't mind if she left your team, feel free to break some of these rules to see just how quickly a woman can want more when you don't follow the rules
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follow this rules if you want to keep it casual, love.
